And So

Start small. You really don’t have to master everything today. Likely if you try you will fail.

Side note: I looked over my last rant and realized that it sounded a bit libertarian. To clarify – everyone has a right to do what makes them happy so long as it doesn’t interfere with other’s rights. We are all part of a collective any way you look at it. The country is one big ecosystem and until we realize that our own happiness is impacted by the combined happiness of all three hundred odd million of us, things will never be the best that they can be.

So don’t decide today that you are going to run a marathon next month. Don’t decide today that you are going to lose 50 pounds by Christmas.

swim fitnessDecide today that you are going to walk around the block and maybe start looking in to getting something more conducive to your style of fitness preparedness, like a treadmill or a bike. And don’t put off the walking thing while you decide what you would really like to do. Walk again tomorrow, and again the next day. Walk until you can ride. When you get all that handled then you can start to think about the triathlon. Anything before that and you are either dreaming or deluded. Riding that delusion for very long runs the risk of crashing head long into failure.

Same thing with the diet. Do not set goals you can’t reach. Or at least that you don’t know that you can reach. ┬áThere are two problems with that approach. The first is that if you set goals and don’t manage to reach them you will be demotivated. The second is that having large weight loss goals that when you reach it signals that you are done is the surest way to have to do it all over again sooner rather than later. So just don’t.

Decide that today you are going to eat one less donut. Decide that your portions will be just a bit smaller. Decide to add a vegetable to your menu. And do it again tomorrow. And the next tomorrow. If you find that you are gaining some traction then set some easy goals that you should be able to continue with with only a little willpower. Done well that attitude will allow you to develop new habits that will last. No more yo-yo diets. No more three wardrobes. No more failure to sap your self esteem and leave you prone to the same confidence destroying behavior the next time.

That is how real change is made, one small step, one small idea, one small action at a time.

I Think…

That no matter what, everybody deserves a right to a happy, healthy, fulfilled life. (Well, not murderers so much), and that anything and anybody who tries to get int he way of that in these the United States, should be reprimanded. By somebody.

That said, we each as individuals can mostly only do so much. We can try to improve the world right around us as best we can and if we are particularly energetic or motivated we can join with others to try to do more. But, really, even that can only do so much so fast.

As with everything in life when it comes down to it, you can only control you. So speak out when you can, live honestly and joyfully and spread that honesty and joy. And take care of yourself.

Watch what you eat, get some exercise, and get out with other people, because living a life alone is no way to live. I am sure, though I’m not going to look it up right now. that people who spend time with other people are happier people who live longer lives.

So those are the things you need to do to live a life that is long and fulfilling and joyful. Because it’s hard to be joyful when you are bitter and don’t feel well. And as you age it seems like those things can go hand in hand.